About this Episode

So many moms are told that if they want to achieve their goals, they just need more discipline, better habits, or stronger motivation. But if you’re a mom, you already know that advice doesn’t work in real life.

In this episode, I’m sharing a counterintuitive way to achieve your goals as a mom—one that actually honors the reality of motherhood instead of fighting against it.

I share personal examples from my own life—times when my best-laid plans completely fell apart because of kids, health issues, work demands, or pure exhaustion—and how learning to work with those constraints (instead of shaming myself for them) changed everything. I also walk you through the three types of obstacles most moms face—mental, emotional, and situational—and how each one quietly sabotages our goals if we don’t name it.

This episode is especially for you if you’ve ever felt like you’re “bad at goals,” frustrated with yourself for starting and stopping, or ashamed that motherhood seems to derail everything you want for yourself. You’re not broken. You’re just trying to use strategies that weren’t designed for this season of life.

My hope is that this conversation helps you release shame, stop pushing harder than necessary, and start creating goals that actually fit your life—so you can move forward without burning yourself out.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

Why traditional goal-setting advice doesn’t work for moms
A real-life example of how motherhood can derail even the best intentions
The counterintuitive shift that helped me start making real progress
The three types of obstacles that block moms from reaching their goals
How “good mom” beliefs quietly sabotage self-care and personal growth
The decrease, delete, delegate framework I use to create space in my life
Why adaptability—not discipline—is the most important skill for moms
Encouragement for default parents who feel stuck, resentful, or exhausted
Why your kids benefit from seeing you pursue goals in a sustainable way

Episode Resources

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
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Episode Transcript

[00:00:00] Hey, I am Mia. Hemstad I'm a wife. I'm a mom

of two kids, and I'm a trauma-informed self-care coach. I also live with diagnosed PTSD and depression. I started sharing my mental wellness journey online in 2017 when I was diagnosed with postpartum depression and anxiety. And since then I've heard from hundreds of women who all struggle with the same thing, putting ourselves last.

This is a struggle that's. Keeping so many women burned out and unhappy through no fault of our own. By the way, I've been working on my own healing as an abuse survivor since 2013, but when I became a mom, I really started to do the inner work of figuring out why I was putting myself last, and how to start prioritizing myself for the first time in my life.

This podcast is about sharing. All of those lessons with you. So if you're interested in hearing honest stories, life advice, and inspiration that encourages you to make your health, happiness, and wellbeing a priority, then definitely stick around. [00:01:00] Welcome to your no longer last journey.

Hey everybody. Welcome back to the podcast. I am so excited to talk about this episode because it's kind of still in that new year. Resolutions goals vain. But like with my take on it, as a mother of two kids who works full time and lives with chronic health conditions, during this time of the year, I get inundated with a lot of advice and pressure to like change my life in January.

And I'm sure you're getting it too. And the thing is, I love personal development, personal growth, changing my life for the better. Achieving things that matter to me I think there's this weird like other side of the like bro hustle, culture vibe that's like slow down, be soft, do nothing. And I know that doesn't sit well with those of us that love personal growth and change and wanna change our lives for the better.

'cause no one's coming to like, you know, fairy wander our lives into. A better situation, right? We have to change it [00:02:00] ourselves. And how do we do that in a way that doesn't burn us out? That respects our limitations? Respects the fact that we have little gremlins at our feet every morning, our children who we can't control and predict how things are gonna go for them.

This episode is gonna touch on that specifically a very counterintuitive, counter-cultural piece of advice. I'm gonna give you that after testing and trying like hundreds of different ways to go about achieving a goal, I'm telling you that this piece, you're probably missing it if you have tried and failed to make any sort of measurable progress towards your goals.

So that's what today's episode's gonna be about, and it's kind of a continuation of last. The last episode I published episode 42, which was all about the five things I focused on in 2026 oh, in 2025, excuse me. In order to set myself up for success this year. They're like the five goals I focused on last year and achieved.

To some degree, some all the ways, some made progress [00:03:00] on that really made all the difference. And so if you're needing some New Year's resolution inspiration, highly recommend going back to that episode, episode 42. But today we're gonna dive into a counterintuitive piece of advice that's gonna help you actually make progress slash achieve the things that matter to you this year.

Real quick so that people don't get mad at me and tell me that they didn't know. My coaching program, my 12 month long coaching program that no longer last journey is reopening for enrollment in the first week of March. And if you're on my email list, you'll know all the details, get access to the discount codes and get access to the limited spots that I'm running for this year.

So. Lincoln description to get on the wait list, get on the email list, all the good things so that you don't miss out on that. 'cause we are gonna be kicking us off second week of March. I'm really excited. Okay, let's actually dive in now. So I wanna kick us off with a story that demonstrates. The advice I'm about to give.[00:04:00]

So typical mom life. On Friday. Today's Monday. On Friday, I had planned, I had a day off from work and I planned to record this episode and I was so excited. I was like ready to go, had everything set up, you know, had a good morning, drop off of the kids and came home. And long story short, I get, I'm like literally leaving home to grab some lunch and then the plan was to eat lunch, come home, record.

I get a call, like as I'm pulling out like, hi, your son, slipped during recess and he's like covered in mud and he doesn't have any extra clothes and we don't have anything here that fits him. Can you bring him clothes? I live pretty far from my kids' school, so that's gonna like completely derail the day.

And that's not exaggerating. Okay? Like, so I'm starving at this point, by the way. But I had to pull back in. To home, get him some clothes. And also it's like, girl, you knew, you knew you needed to pack him extra clothes. You knew, like, why didn't you so mom fail there? And then I, so I got him some [00:05:00] clothes, got in the car, drove up to him, got the clothes to him.

It's pouring rain by the way. It's dumping rain. And then after that I'm starving. So I'm trying to find somewhere nearby to eat. Did that. Then I'm looking around me to see where can I go to, like get some work done. While I wait to pick up my kids. 'cause now I'm stuck there because I don't wanna drive back home and then have to come back in two hours for pickup.

So that's what I mean by derail the day. 'cause I'm not gonna like drive there. I already was there in the morning for school drop off. Then I'm there around lunchtime to bring my son some extra change of clothes. Then what? I'm gonna go back home and go back again for pickup. Two hours later. No. So I'm looking around for some coffee shops and all the coffee shops in the area are closing in like an hour.

So I'm just like. You know, we tried, we tried really hard, we tried really hard to make this happen. And if, you know, I've been complaining about not being able to be consistent with this podcast since I started it [00:06:00] almost three and a half years ago. And this is aside from being the fact that I work full time and I live with chronic illnesses that are finally mostly managed.

I have kids. And you probably can relate to this, you probably can relate and have many stories like this one that I just shared, that shows how you can plan and prepare, motivate yourself, find the discipline within yourself, and have the best of intentions. And the day still won't go as planned. You still won't do the thing that you set out to do that day.

And there was a time, a long time, where I used to get really down on myself. I would feel like. A victim of my circumstances, I would feel helpless. I would feel like I have no control over my day. And that's one of the things becoming a mom does to you is like you experience this really intense total life loss of control.

It's, it's true. You have a complete loss of control. I mean, you're, your [00:07:00] body stretches and grows as you're pregnant. Your boobs leak, milk. They change shape. You might grow moles. I grew a ton of moles during one of my pregnancies I became allergic to certain foods that I'm still allergic to. Now your hair will fall out.

You might get acne, you might, your skin might clearer, you might get joint pain. You that never heals when you become a mother. There's a total loss of control. And if you're somebody like me that, well, heck, it doesn't matter. Like I'm a type A. Enneagram three, recovering perfectionist love to achieve things, but also all of us, every human likes to have some sort of predictability and control.

And when we become moms, we lose that. And so it can be really hard to find your way again if you're trying to, oh, I just realized my mic is like practically covering my face. Sorry. Um, but it can be really hard to like find your way. That doesn't involve like. Feeling down on yourself because after you have [00:08:00] gone through a lot of attempts of trying to do something for yourself, let's say you're trying to exercise every morning and it always gets derailed by kids.

And you fail and you fail and you fail and you fail. It's really hard not to internalize that and to start feeling guilty about it and feeling like there's something wrong with you. And a lot of the advice that we hear in the personal development, self-help space tells us to wake up earlier or just be more disciplined or you know, there's that famous like, don't miss two days in a row, like no matter what.

And it's always these dudes saying that. I'm like, don't miss two days in a row, no matter what. You must not have anyone else to take care of because for instance, in December, we all got the flu. And even though I was coughing out a lung, I was up, even though I had a fever and coughing out my lung, taking care of my kids because they were sick.

They were sick for like 10 days. So I'm sorry, don't miss two days, or I'm gonna ruin my goals and dreams. That's a terrible message for us to be absorbing. And yet it's the dominant [00:09:00] narrative. So. Maybe help me make this more mainstream. Maybe share this message that there is another way, a different way that moms need to approach personal development and goals that doesn't shame us for missing two days in a row.

That doesn't shame us for. You know, not making it happen. And it has nothing to do with your discipline, and it has nothing to do with your motivation, and it has nothing to do with your self trust, even though when you repeatedly fail to do something that you wanna do for yourself, it can feel like that.

It can feel like you're a failure. It can feel like either's something wrong with you and all of these things. So what do we do about that? How did I handle that hiccup, you know, and having a, my day, getting derailed and whatever like that. How do I approach like my life? It's so full. I'm a full-time communications director.

I'm a mom. It's really counterintuitive. I am gonna prep you. What changed for me, because again, I have tried so many different [00:10:00] things. I listened to all the bros. I read all the bro books, and even some of the,, women written books and mom written books that honestly felt like the same dude advice, but just like in pink and with like some girl boss language, it was all the same.

None of it worked. Here's what worked, not just for me, but I use this in my coaching program and I have seen it work over and over again for women with five kids and one kid for women with super demanding jobs and stay-at-home moms for like, for so many walks of life, and it works. What you need to do is I want you to spend some time.

More time than you might be comfortable with

focusing on the negative. I want you to focus on everything that goes wrong and that is getting in the way of you pursuing the goals and dreams that you have for yourself. Why so many self-help gurus are like what you focus on expands. Don't feed the negative energy.

You know, we're all told to like. Visualize and [00:11:00] envision the version of us that is achieving these goals or practicing these habits seamlessly. Do our affirmations tell ourselves we can focus on the positive, and I'm telling you to focus on the negative. Why I want you to focus on the negative slash focus on your obstacles because.

Moms have way more obstacles and unpredictable wrenches that get thrown in our day-to-day than anybody else. So we have to be really careful who we take advice from. And focusing on these things helps you to not just fixate on, here are the five things I wanna do this year. I wanna exercise more, I wanna do this, I wanna do that.

And you're, and you spend so much time planning and organizing and strategizing your goals, but. You haven't dealt with the fact that your inability to practice these habits or pursue these goals isn't due to a lack of determination. It's due to the fact that you have too much on my plate. I [00:12:00] love to say that moms don't need more time management hacks or more, more motivation.

We need less stuff to manage. We have too many obstacles on our plate. So an exercise that I do with my coaching clients every single month, 'cause this is not a one and done. We gotta rinse and repeat. It's to write down everything that is currently getting in the way. Currently, this is important because if you wanna focus on the negative, I don't want you to try to think of every possible scenario, everything that could go wrong, and then try to anticipate that and plan for it.

No, that is not what I'm saying. That will put you in a mental hospital. Like that's exhausting. No, I am saying, I want you to think about all the things that at this moment. Are getting in the way. And that's a really big question. Like I know that that can feel overwhelmingly huge, so I love to break it down with my clients.

There are three types of obstacles. There are mental obstacles that have to do with your beliefs like. I don't have any time at all, or I don't deserve to take time for [00:13:00] myself. Then there's the emotional obstacles of like guilt and shame. Like, well, I feel bad when I take time for myself. Well, I feel ashamed if I'm not there for every single parenting moment, or if I go to bed with a dirty kitchen and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And then there's the situational obstacles, which is a much larger category. That can do with like a lack of knowledge or education around something. Like maybe the reason you're, you haven't made progress towards something is 'cause you don't know what the first step is. It could do with a lack of resources.

Like maybe you need childcare and a break from your kids and you can't afford it, or money is tight right now and you're too scared to even look at your budget. It could also be like. You have a really unhelpful partner that doesn't do their fair share in the house and thinks that all the household domestic and parenting related responsibilities should fall to you and you're the default parent.

Situational obstacles can be anything having to do with your situation financially, knowledge wise, resource wise, that affects your ability. To pursue the things that you want to practice, the things that you want. So when you have those three categories of mental obstacles, emotional obstacles and situational [00:14:00] obstacles, you're able to start fleshing out like what's currently going on in your life.

This is important because if we ignore that piece and just focus solely on the thing that you wanna do, like I wanna wake up and exercise for 30 minutes every day before my kids, then what happens when your kid wakes up at the same time you do? Because I'm gonna tell you what more times than not when I wake up early, so does my kid.

And I had to be like, oh, my belief is no longer my, I had a belief that was like, if my kid's awake, I have to take care of them. If my kid wakes up, I need to make them breakfast. If my kid wakes up, I need to change their diaper right away. And I realized that that belief kept me from exercising. 'cause I'd wake up early and then they'd wake up and then now I'm taking care of them.

What if I changed my belief? 'cause that was an obstacle and I changed my belief to be, if my kid wakes up, I can still work out for 30 minutes. The diaper can stay on for 31 minutes. They're gonna be fine. They can. To eat breakfast, they're gonna be fine. I might throw them a pack of crackers and a sippy cup, but I don't [00:15:00] need to like make eggs and cook and, and start open up the kitchen and all this.

I don't need to do that. That is a belief of what it meant to be a good mom that was holding me back from taking care of myself. I can give you so many examples 'cause I literally do this live work with my clients during our coaching and community calls, but I hope you're starting to see. 'cause I know the situational obstacles are like, it's more easy to identify, but you also have a lot of internal, invisible mental and emotional obstacles that are preventing you from just taking care of yourself and building the habits and pursuing the goals that matter to you.

And that would make you feel like you and a human who also has some semblance of control and ownership of her life and time. And so if you just go straight to like, I wanna build up my fitness this year and I'm going to work out five times a week, and I'm, it's just gonna happen, then you are gonna be totally stumped when life happens, when a kid needs to be picked up from school because they're [00:16:00] sick, or when, work has more demanding things going on, maybe a colleague is taking a leave of absence and now your workload has now doubled.

What are you supposed to do about that if you have a regular practice? Of assessing the obstacles in your life instead of just driving as hard as you can towards your goals, even when other things are going wrong or other things are getting in the way, and you just keep pushing and then you burn yourself out.

Instead of doing that, if you have a mindful pause every month where you zoom out and take stock of what's going on right now, the negatives, the obstacles, giving time and space for the obstacles, you are then able to make plans and choices that. Actually acknowledge what's actually going on in your life that actually enable you to honor the season you're in, rather than just pushing and driving and hustling and grinding.

Because it's pursue and achieve at all costs. We're not doing that anymore. The pursue and achieve at all costs, not only is it very bro [00:17:00] coded, it's very bro coded whose wife does everything at home so that he can pursue his stuff. Because he doesn't really have any obstacles because the wife is absorbing all the work for him.

We don't live in that world. So if one of the obstacles is situational obstacles is I have a very unsupportive partner, then maybe one of the things you need to address and do is have conversations about that or bring in a couple's therapist and make a realistic plan so that everything isn't falling to you.

Because I'm gonna be honest with you, there was a time when I was up at six 30 doing mom duties and I didn't go to bed till 11. I can't remember how many hours that was. Hold on. Six to six, 12. Uh, so I was working 17 hour days and my husband was working full-time. I was a stay-at-home mom, and I was like, oh, yeah, well, he's working full-time, so I have to handle everything else.

He was working. If you add in the commute maybe like 10 hours a day and I'm doing 17, how is that fair? How is that fair? It's not, so we started to do like shift and change things so that maybe he could do the dishes and do some loads of laundry [00:18:00] and do the bath and bedtime routine so that I can have a moment to breathe after we've all had dinner as a family, right?

So there's just so many things. That are on our plates, you need to remember that. You probably don't need more time management hacks and tips. You need less stuff to manage. So once you sit down mindfully, once a month, ideally, to look at what you wanna do for yourself and look at what's getting in the way or what you have on your plate.

How then do you start tackling these things? You need to tackle them methodically so that you don't get overwhelmed. So once you figure out your mental, emotional, and situational obstacles, you're gonna then

use my boundary setting framework to decrease, delete, and delegate. It's very self-explanatory.

You look at all the obstacles that you wrote down, that you brain dumped onto a sheet of paper and you go, what can I decrease? What can I do less of right now in this season? It can be temporary, right? One of the things I did as a stay-at-home mom was I started to cook less, and I did that by double batching.[00:19:00]

Making twice as much of every dinner so that I could cook and do all those dishes every other day. Not only did that simplify my grocery and meal planning lists, cut it in half so that I'm not having to make these huge lists and these exhausting meal plans. I'm trying to figure out what we're gonna eat seven days a week.

I'm figuring out what we're gonna eat three or maybe four times a week. I'm double batching. I'm saving money that way. And then also on the nights when I didn't have to wash all the pots and pans because we had leftovers. Those were the nights. Where I, after putting the kids down, would fill up my bathtub with hot water, lavender oil, and Epsom salts, and I would literally lay in that tub for 45 minutes and it was like in between when my kid first went down for sleep and like the first breastfeed, the second breastfeeding session of the night.

So that was my window, and I cannot begin to tell you. How much that window like gave me back my humanity made me feel like, oh, I'm just Mia. I'm a person taking a bath. I'm not the cook, the [00:20:00] cleaner, the breast feeder, the vacuumer. I'm not doing anything but being with myself. And that was the start of like, whoa, the no longer last life.

Look at me taking care of myself. Look at how something is simple. I was decreasing the amount of times I was cooking and coming up with a strategy for that. A plan for that enabled me to have consistent time to take a longer bath, which is what I needed during that season. Slowness. Connecting with myself, rest my bones.

Tired, my muscles were hurting, carrying babies all day in that baby carry, you know, it was when I had a newborn and a 2-year-old. So I was running after the 2-year-old and I was carrying the infant. It was a lot. So that's one example of decrease, delete. Very straightforward, get rid of it. If you volunteered to something that you don't have the capacity to do, opt out.

And if you feel a little bit bad about it, also feel proud with, you know, alongside guilt, you can coexist with other feelings. And instead of trying to. Pretend the guilt isn't there. Like it's okay. But like, feel proud that you chose yourself and that you stood up for yourself and you asked for [00:21:00] what you needed.

That's huge. So yeah, delete. But also something that a lot of my clients forget to do is to delete those beliefs that are holding you back. So again, if you have a belief that you can't work out, if your kids are also up with you, then you're gonna need to change that belief. Maybe adjust your workouts, whatever, but still show up for you.

And there's a lot of beliefs once you get into this work. I'm telling you. There is so much that you don't realize is under the surface that's holding you back. So do not be scared to start identifying and deleting those beliefs that are holding you back and write new ones. Figure out what you'd rather believe instead because the brain has to hold onto something, so you have to give it something that you wanna hold onto and that's gonna help you.

So decrease, delete, and then we have delegate. You have to get better at delegating. I hired last year someone to come every week to clean. It's been life changing. It means on Saturdays I'm not cleaning all weekend. I'm actually. Doing something that I wanna do for once, which is nice and also affirms my humanity and makes me feel like a human being instead of just a [00:22:00] human doing.

Delegating also, like my husband and I did six months of weekly couples therapy because things were wildly imbalanced in our home and he's gotten a lot better at taking on some of the parenting and household responsibilities that used to all be on my plate. So, delegation there, and I'm sharing this because I want you to know that I know.

That delegating is not as easy as like, oh, I just asked him to do it and it's gonna be done. Or, you know, it's not that easy. The whole of society, Western Society is built on us Moms doing everything. So when we go, Hey, I'm, I'm not doing this anymore and I need you to do it, sometimes the world can stop in our homes.

And they're like, what do you mean? And it can cause arguments. It can cause frustration. It can cause confusion because it's not normal for moms to delegate. It's not, so I'm not just leaving you hanging with like, Hey, write down everything that's like difficult for you right now and all of the obstacles, but I'm giving you.

This other framework that you can use and like layer [00:23:00] over the obstacles and go, okay, now how can I decrease, delete and delegate here in order to lessen the things that are on my plate and also lessen the shackles in my mind that are making it hard for me to just be flexible and adaptable and show up for myself.

So like when that whole thing happened on Friday when I was gonna record, and then my son needed clothes, and then I had to do pickup, which normally my husband does pickup, but I was in the area just like all these things happened that weren't the plan. I, over the years have learned that obstacles, unpredictable obstacles and not having full control of my life and schedule is a part of being a mother.

And I have gotten so good at being adaptable and flexible and running with it. And I immediately went in my mind, like, we're not gonna spiral about this. I found another slot in my calendar where I could record a podcast and I did that and I'm here now doing it, fulfilling the promise to myself. I'm so proud.

So yeah. That's it for today. I hope that was helpful. The whole like pausing to reflect on obstacles and then working through, [00:24:00] the boundary setting framework of decreasingly delegate are core pieces of my coaching program. We run through those frameworks and apply them to every type of self-care that you might wanna practice in your life.

So we utilize the four B self-care framework. Basic self-care, boring self-care, brilliant and bougie to practice taking care of yourself holistically. But there's a huge piece of every month when we meet that's all about, but what's getting in the way right now and what can we do about it? And there's a lot of brainstorming and problem solving and coaching that can help you actually make those changes so that you can actually take care of yourself in the way that you deserve.

So, like I said at the top of the episode, the coaching program is reopening. There's limited spots. The discount runs only for seven days. So if you wanna know about that, make sure you're on my wait list. And the enrollment opens first week of March. So you have time to plan if you're gonna join, to plan and think about it if it's, it's the right fit for you.

And [00:25:00] also, I want to say one of the benefits that comes from the women who join is friendship. They meet people who have similar values, who are like-minded and who are supportive of each other, who want each other to succeed at carving out time and space for themselves at being no longer last in their lives.

And it's a beautiful thing to see that just creates all this energy and motivation amongst each other too. Craft our lives around what we need. 'cause it's hard. It's not easy. To build a no longer last life. I wish it were, it's not, but it is absolutely worth it, and it's something that I'm. Proud that my kids get to see from me every day because we are redefining motherhood in real time right now, and it's a lot of work, but it's absolutely worth it.

So I hope I'll see you on the wait list and eventually in the program when it opens in March. And I hope this episode resonated and gave you some golden nuggets and some aha moments. Again, I think it's really counterintuitive to be like, Hey, you wanna achieve your goals? Think about all of the negatives and [00:26:00] all of the obstacles, and focus on them and give them time.

Wrestle with them because just, I can't tell you how many times I would ignore what's going on, and I would just be like, I just need to double down. I just need to focus harder and push myself harder and be more disciplined with myself and just not make any excuses, like no matter what, don't make any excuses.

And it always ended in burnout. It never resulted in me sustainably building habits, achieving my goals. Making progress in any area. It always resulted in me feeling ashamed, defeated, angry, and frustrated. I remember talking to a parent who is the default parent, and they told me, I asked them like, Hey, are you gonna go back to grad school because they really wanna be a therapist?

And I was just checking in on that and they were like, you know, every single time I try to pursue something that matters to me, The [00:27:00] weight and the responsibility of being the default parent, always sneaks up on me and makes it impossible to pursue this. And I just end up feeling disappointed and I end up feeling angry.

And I don't wanna feel angry about being a parent. I don't wanna feel upset. I love my child and I never want to feel like they are taking away from what I want. But then at the same time, this person feels deflated and they feel like. They're just a caregiver and nothing else, and that their life is only about that.

And I hate to see that because our kids need to see us as whole, happy, functioning human beings who have goals and ambitions and things that we do outside of caregiving for them. But because so many parents don't know how to. Navigate the many obstacles that we deal with in order to pursue what matters to them, understandably, all the advice we get out there is, you can tell it's from people that don't have to take care of a child at two in the morning that's throwing up.[00:28:00]

Of course, we don't know how to do it, so we just completely give up. We feel disappointed, we feel angry, A little bit of resentment, frustration, and we just put our heads down and we do what we do. We show up and for our kids, but I want more for you. I want more for you and I know, trust me, after trying so many different things and coaching a lot of different women over five years, this works focusing on the negative every month and coming up with a plan to address each thing.

And I'm telling you, sometimes it's like acceptance. Sometimes it's like. Recognizing that something's not gonna go well and pivoting like so. Oh, I can hear that. My kids just came home. But anyway, I hope you found this episode helpful. I'd love to hear your comments and feedback and I hope to see you in my newsletter 'cause it's an awesome place to be.

I will see you in the next episode. Thank you so much for spending time with me and yeah, talk to you soon. Bye.

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